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  • Writer: Stephen
    Stephen
  • 37 minutes ago
  • 2 min read

I am currently away for some of that time I was referencing in last week's message, but I still wanted to pop into your inbox for a quick note. Thankfully, with the help of scheduling technology, I can send you this message and still be present wherever I may happen to be in the world when you are reading this (especially since I wrote it before I left)!


On this trip I'm planning to visit some wonderful friends and various members of my extended family. In anticipation of that I have been reminded of a simple, yet powerful rule we've tried to practice in our family - go ahead and Say It! Take the time to tell people what they mean to you, what you appreciate about them, and why they matter to you, and do it now! So often we just hold those things internally and we don't ever express them until it may be too late.


I will be honest and share that the idea to go ahead and Say It was born out of some painful losses that happened way too early with some of our family and friends. Being forced to wrestle with the fact that you no longer have the ability to tell someone directly what they mean to you created a mindfulness about the importance of telling people now, when you have the chance. So we've done our best to just go ahead and Say It as much as we can when we have the opportunity.  


How about you? If you were going to go ahead and Say It to someone in your life, who is the first person that pops into your mind and heart? What would you say to them? When are you going to see them next and what would it take for you to just go ahead and Say It when you do?  I bet you'll be glad you did!


Here's to taking the time to go ahead and Say It this week!


Be Well,

Stephen


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  • Writer: Stephen
    Stephen
  • 7 days ago
  • 3 min read

I had a very strange and ironic situation happen to me recently. I was attending a webinar on how to be more productive and some of the basic points of the presentation were to be more mindful and use various tools to help you stay focused.  The irony of the situation was, I was totally distracted and unfocused while the webinar was happening.  A webinar on focus, and I wasn’t even focused on it!


I suspect I am not alone in my confession.  How often have you been in a meeting or at dinner with family and friends and your mind is somewhere entirely different than Right Here? I think this is just the nature of the beast in our world, with all of the ways it pulls for our time and attention. And while it would be tempting to just toss my hands up in the air and say, “oh well!” it seems like there might be an invitation for us to lean in and grow here.


What if we could see all of that distraction and our lack of focus as an invitation to just Be Here as much as possible? To continue to learn how to be present in this moment, with these people, in this situation, without our minds and hearts wandering back toward the past or forward toward the future?


I have a friend who told me that one of the tools she uses to help her Be Here is to take her hands and spread them out with her arms open wide. Then she slowly brings her hands together until they are touching right in front of her. She thinks of it as reaching with one hand toward all the places in the past her mind is wandering, and reaching with the other hand toward the future and all her “what if’s” her mind is envisioning, and she just let’s those fade as she draws herself back to the present. It’s a simple gesture for her to Be Here. 


I’m getting ready to do some traveling in the coming weeks. The plan is to be with lots of family and friends and people I deeply love. I am also going to be exploring some new places in the world. Honestly, I am afraid that I may fall into the trap of allowing things like my phone with all of its notifications and distractions, to pull me out of Being Here. As a result, I think I am writing this message this week mainly to remind myself that I want to just Be Here for the next few weeks (and hopefully beyond). I want to allow myself the joy and beauty of enjoying these moments with these people and see if I can just focus on Being Here!


How about you? Where are you most tempted to lose your focus and drift away? Do you tend to go backwards to the past, or do you wander forward into the future and all the what if’s? What kind of tool would be helpful to bringing you back to Right Here? 


Here’s to doing our best to just Be Here this week (and beyond)!\


Be Well,

Stephen


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  • Writer: Stephen
    Stephen
  • Jun 9
  • 2 min read

I was chatting with a colleague last week and they shared this Estonian Proverb with me:


The work will teach you how to do it.


I was also working on a presentation for a group leadership experience I am helping to facilitate this week and was reminded of how important it can be to embrace an experimentation mentality (which I've written about here).


Both of these encounters reminded me just how critical it is to actually Engage in doing the work.  So often we try and analyze and plan how to go about a task, a project, or even a conversation (how many of those have I rehearsed in my head and they almost never turn out the way I think!), but there is no way to completely plan for everything.  That's why there are times when we just have to Engage in the work, because it will continue to teach us as we go.  Then, once we are actually in process, we can learn and grow and modify as we are Engaging.


For example, learning to drive. We can read all the books, study for the written test, and maybe even engage in a virtual driving course, but there is no substitute for actually getting behind the wheel of a vehicle and Engaging in the driving process!  Then as we start driving, we discover that different vehicles handle in different ways. The acceleration and braking on this car are different than on that one. It's basically the same, but not exactly, and we can't figure that out without Engaging.


The work will teach you how to do it.


As you think about your current circumstances or leadership environment, where have you been hesitant to Engage because you are trying to figure out the perfect plan? Is there a way you could figure out what the first few steps or actions are so you could Engage and start the learning journey?  What conversation have you been rehearsing in your head and what would it look like if you just scheduled that conversation on your calendar as a way to push you toward Engagement? 


Here's to being willing to Engage this week!


Be Well,

Stephen


Center was created to support individuals and teams so they can live from their Purposeful Center.  We specialize in professional coaching and leadership development and we’d love to support you!  Click on our Services page to book a free consultation. 

 
 
 

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